So today at work, two different things happened. Both of which were meant to be ‘jokes’ and I refused to laugh.
Both of them revolved around sexist / feminist things.
So for the first thing, my supervisor made eye contact with an attractive woman that was passing the studio, smiled, and winked. Then the absolute sweetest person that works there who I consider my favorite caught him and poked a little fun at him and then commented to the woman that she was looking good and cat called. I was in the phone booth and I caught my favorite’s eye and made a face that indicated I did not approve. He asked me why and I told him that there was nothing complementary about a cat call. To which he responded that it was just a joke. I rolled my eyes and we moved on.
Then I answered a phone call. Now this deserves some context. Normally there are a few male interns and they take care of the phone calls and stuff for this particular show. However this semester there are only female interns. And I have nothing better to do and I really do enjoy working with these guys, so I stay behind and help out with the second show. It’s an hour long sports talk show that is streamed online. Essentially, for a very long time it’s been mostly a boys club. And in truth, these are great guys so I don’t mind being the minority.
I knew this was eventually coming, but today when I answered a phone call, the man on the other end made a comment about how women didn’t belong on a sports show. Now, I’m the call screener and he’s just made a chauvinist comment so naturally I didn’t let him on the air. He got upset and emailed one of the guys. Now admittedly, what came of that email was actually a good thing because I didn’t get the memo that they allow all their calls through and now I know.
However they were teasing me because I “screened” one of their more common callers, so I told them what he said. Their response was that it was just a joke and I should loosen up.
No. Absolutely not.
I refuse to laugh at those jokes. Because I’m tired of them being made and the only way those jokes stop is if we stop laughing at them.
I’m tired of these jokes because I’m tired of being told I can’t do things because I have a vagina.
I’m tired of being considered a bitch because I don’t think these jokes are cool. I’m not going to loosen up about this. I’m going to take a stand.
I’m tired of my emotions and opinions being considered less valid because my vagina may be bleeding. #1- My vagina is none of your business. #2- If your penis bled for 7 days every month, you’d be in tears. I literally put on my big girl panties and deal. #3 – MY VAGINA IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
I’m a strong woman and I’m very proud of that. And believe it or not, those ‘jokes’ chip away at that strength if I allow it.
So no. I’m not going to loosen up. I’m not going to laugh along. And yes. I’m going to call you on your ish. Because I actually respect you guys a whole freaking lot. And I love my job. I know this is a weird way to put it, but it’s a huge compliment that I’m willing to let this part of me show. If I didn’t like you, I would remain indifferent.
In conclusion, your jokes aren’t funny. Therefore I’m not going to laugh. But I still think you’re pretty cool.